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Tea Blog: #DearMe

My various social media sites have been taken over by the Hashtag #DearMe – originally an academic study and a book supported by a number of famous individuals including J. k. Rowling, created to fuel the discussion on what advice you would give your younger (16 year old) self regarding life, work and self confidence. The tag has been revitalised by a the queens of YouTube stars including Felicia Day and Grace Helbig through to Bunny Meyer and many others.

The stories these amazing women have shared so far have all been amazing, promoting self acceptance, confidence in both body and mind and general positivity when it comes to looking on life. It is simply inspiring to hear women who I aspire to, share stories about their own inadequcies and the struggles that they have overcome in life, so I decided to throw in my thoughts.

Young Maebhe was an incredibly awkward individual. Following an equally awkward start in primary school, the girl who spent most of her life lost inside her own mind, drifting out off windows or with her nose buried in a book (most likely a Harry Potter novel) I had a hard time making new friends. While I had friends and wasn’t bullied in high school, I struggled to adapt to social situations and had the pleasure of being the only member of the Library club in my first year. Growing up my greatest fear was a sense of social invisibility and the lose of self. I wanted to challenge my social anxiety, make more friends and become a more outgoing individual without having to lose myself to fit in. I loved my pink hair, I loved my books and my many other nerdy interests.

Now 22, I am a graduate, job hunting and I still have my pink hair, adore my books and have found many more nerdy loves. However I have grown as a person, I am much more confident in the person I am and my passions. Developing a thick skin against those who would drag me down to their level or encourage us to settle for “little town ambitions”.

#DearMe : I would want to tell younger me to hold strong to my dreams. Don’t let the doubts and differing opinions of others threaten your ambitions so much or discourage you. You will meet your best friends at university. People who will stick with you throughout life, who understand and love you for your bookiness!

As for romantic love – that will come later- stop stressing!


  

  However this is just the beginning we will continue to meet new people and take on more adventures – so I’m sure I’ll be back in a few years time with an update. We will hold on to our favourite mantras;
 Carpe Diem, Thrive & “Life isn’t finding shelter in the storm. It’s about learning to dance in the rain.” (From Sherrilyn Kenyon’s Acheron- small hint about my next post)!

  Share your #DearMe story on Twitter on your own blog or below!!

I would love to hear your stories and your advice and ambitions 😄

Maebhe


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Tea Blog: Goodbye 2012: Thank you for the memories

So while my new year is verrry low key and quiet as I’m on my own this year because I have to work in the morning. But it has given time to think about what I have achieved this year and what I want to achieve in 2013. So I thought a little overview was in order 🙂

Dec 31st 2011: this time last year I was out with my cousins celebrating in 2012

Jan 24th 2012: Exams are finished and I am entering the last semester of my second year

Apr 10th 2012: I was flying from Ireland to Paris 🙂 with my cousins and uni friend Nina: Highlight of my Year!
-walked around our little bit of Paris trying to find the Avenue des Champs-Élysées – which we did eventually find
-saw the arc de triomphe
-got amazing food (quatre fromage pasta, yum yum) walked more and more 🙂
-Saw the Eiffel Tower for the first time at 9o’clock at night all lit up – Twinkly (here’s a link to a little video I took on my last night in Paris at the Eiffel tower) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CysO3Ou0oew
-Got on the metro home, walked in the wrong direction home and walked all the way back to the hotel

Apr 11th 2012: still in Paris
-went to the Lourve: which is ridiculously huge! saw the Mona Lisa: which is ridiculously tiny
-walked around Paris a lot and got real French macaroons
-Went to Notre Dame which is gorgeous and gothic and made me feel like I was in a Disney movie (I could hear the music in my head) 😀
-This was the day we travelled out of central paris to the district on montemart? to a place called Nation where Nina’s friend lived and visited her and got a lot of food and the best Crème bruille I have ever eaten.

Apr 12th 2012: 3rd and craziest day in Paris out of the hotel for 14hours 🙂
-started of at the metro and travel to the 20th arrondissement de Ménilmontant to visit the Pere Lachaise, the largest graveyard in Paris and the tomb of Oscar Wilde, but also just a beautiful place with elaborate tombstones and even mini chapels.
-then we took another metro to Montemart to visit the Sacre Ceour or Sacred heart cathedral, which is just gorgeous with an amazing view. Surrounding the Cathedral there were numerous little art shops, cafes and patisserie’s were we bought loads of sweets and presents to bring home with us.
-After this we took the metro back into the heart of Paris to visit the D’Orsay art gallery. Which was very different from the lourve but I preferred it.
-When we were leaving the gallery we bumped into a demonstration walk for former President Sarkozy coming over the bridge of Louis 16th (I think :))
-we then walked back from the D’Orsay to the Eiffel tower to see it during the day and to take the seine river tour which was really interesting.
-After the cruise we found a little restaurant near the Eiffel tower as it was getting late and we were flying home the next day so we wanted to watch the Eiffel tower light up again and it only does that from9o’clock at night. Although admitted the food was nice I discovered that French people eat their steak raw – eww :s
So we ended up missing the 9o’c lights cause we were still eating so we walked to a little café on the other side of the park of the Eiffel tower to get Hot chocolate: which little bit of info, the French have hot chocolate with breakfast. It is also some of the nicest hot chocolate I have ever had Yummy!
-So we watch the lights twinkle at 10o’c and then walked around for the last time, I got some presents and a I ❤ Paris hoodie. Then we got crepes and got the metro back to the hotel: where we blissfully passed out from exhaustion and sore feet 🙂 (the sole of my boot actually separated from all the wear)

Apr 13th 2012: This was our last day and we had a mid day flight home. But honestly we were all run down and feeling sick so first we went to our favourite restaurant near our hotel for omeletes and hot chocolate as our leaving breakfast.
-Then on to Starbucks were we got our Paris mugs and basically lounged about for a couple of hours for going back to the hotel to organise a taxi to the airports.
-this was honestly the most horrifying part of our trip, back we were stuck in a tiny taxi going from 70 to 0 in seconds. It was an automatic and therefore was lurching to a stop every other second and I suffered from the worst car sickness I have ever had. But we wasted the last of our euros on dessert, post cards and books in the airport before getting out=r flight home to rainy Ireland.
– and after hugging my parents who had been texting me morning, mid day and afternoon throughout my trip (worry worts) 😀 I climbed into bed and slept for a good 6 hours before getting up to hand out pressies etc

Jun 10th 2012: Started this little blog 🙂

Jun 14th 2012: Finished 2nd year at uni

Jun 23rd 2012: my 20th birthday, mum took me out to a very nice restaurant called the Merchant and got posh food, then shopping and then cocktails

Sep 11th 2012: started 3rd year

Dec 14th 2012: passed my driving theory test & saw the Hobbit

Dec 31st 2012: And now I'm here! 😀

So I'm hoping that this coming year will be even better, with more travel, more friends and hopefully graduating!!
But just always remember that everything you do should have happiness as your aim 🙂

Resolutions to come: 😀 although a lot of books will definitely be there & away to send up a lantern in exactly 19minutes

Maebhe xx

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Illness, ex-friends & Facebook

Hello again, so i have been away a while because of a number of reason.

One:Uni is currently kicking my ass 🙂 but i’ve ranted about this before so i shall not repeat myself here.

Two: I have been feeling sick for the past week which hasnt helped with uni and then i had some friend drama while i was sick and that just didnt help.

Okay so this may be a little TMI for any guy readers but i have had female issues throughout school but so far doctors dont really know whats wrong with me, but it just means i have a bit of a hard time and feel like crap once a month but im weel used to it and just keep going best i can.

However all these issues ganged up on me this week as well as having what i classify as an ‘Ex-friend’ decide to drop all his drama on me. Because im sure this is an issue that most people will experience at some stage in their life, especially if you move schools and during the transition from secondary education to university. The loss or changing relationship with a friends.

In my case it was a combination of issues because when  i left school, the group of friends i hung out with mostly guys and added complication which didnt rise its ugly head until the very end was the problem of the friend zone combined with my inability to read social ques.

So what happened was on a leaving school night out my usual group of friends went out for the night and had a couple of drinks – might i add im fron the UK so the legal age is 18- but honestly im not much of a drinker. So having just reaching legal age and knowing i probably wouldnt see all these people together again, at least for a long time i had a couple and of course being 5’5 on a good day and pretty small i was an unaquivible light weight and got a little toasted and kissed a friend who until after that had never told me that he had liked me throughout school. To say i nearly died from embaressment when we had to go back for the last week or so of school would be putting it mildly because i had never had any feelings in return for him ewk!

So having been asked out making it twelve million times worse and having to politely as possible say no things just dissolved into eternal awkwardness and after we each left for our respective uni-s it got worse as i later discovered was he had called me a couple of uncomplimentry names to mutual friends and even friends of mine despite our attempts to remain friends after school trying to organise little catch ups- it all failed.

So after a totally random moment when i discovered a link from him on facebook to a picture of a house with books streaming out the window and a comment, basically saying its were i lived. I had a little flicker of hope but even that desintegrated into another disagreement as he tried to blame me and my friends of not trying to meet up with him any time he was home – which, yeah was just untrue.

So i have decided it its no longer worth the drama because its just sad. Yes we we’re close friends throughout school. But how we grow and develop in life is beyond our control and isnt something we should limit to maintain a friendship/relationship that will only hold you back.

While at the same time remember that friendships are always worth a try to maintain especially through school because life is only gona get crazier and harder to create new friends, so the friends who last through the hard times are the friends you should put the effort in to keep.

So another little rant over. But my message is just to say that life is inevitably gona change and it is how you adapt to these changes and how they will make you grow and develop as a person will develop the person you will be for the rest of your life. And while it doesnt have to mean losing the person you are now, because i know i am still as big a book nerd as i have ever been and possibily more so- scary as that is 🙂 – and still have all my original quirks i know i am stronger person, more independant than ever and finally happier with who i am. Although there are areas in which i still hope in improve – one being that social necessity of reading ques as i literally dont notice unless its as obvious as a brink wall and then its usually not welcome – not a good combo lol.

But hope this helped in some way and if you’s have anymore questions or want advice on anything mentioned or uni advice please feel free to ask  and i’ll be back again so with another review 🙂

Maebhe